Introduction:
Everyone has to face the people with whom they disagree. It is inevitable. There is a way to avoid people you don’t like. But, at some point, you have to be with someone you dislike. If you are clear about what you are doing, what others say doesn’t matter.
Remember, you should not do things because of appreciation or fear of criticism. Focus on what matters most to you.
Using the following simple ideas, you can easily see things from a different perspective ways to influence the people in a positive way.
1.Behave friendly:
The gentleness and friendliness are always stronger than fury and force. Showing anger would not serve any practical purpose. Behave friendly. Come forward and talk to the people. It is how people get to know each other and like one another. Don’t neglect to speak to the people at any time. There is no way the other person can feel friendly toward you if they don’t know you. When you are warm and make other people feel good about themselves, you will feel more confident.
“Your beliefs don’t make you a better person; your behavior does.”
2.Avoid arguments:
Great people know how to handle arguments. Listening is the key to overcoming these issues. When the other person is angry, give them time to express their feelings and their point of view. When you listen, you will get a better idea of the problem. When one shouts, the other should observe because two people argue there is no communication and understanding. It will create noise and lousy vibration. If you disagree with the other person, you can express your opinion after the other person settles down. This approach gives the chance to understand each other points. Check this article to know more about how to avoid arguments.
“Explain your anger instead of expressing it, and you will find a solution instead of arguments.”-Buddha.
3.Stop blaming others:
Blaming is like a defense mechanism. It is easier to blame someone else than take responsibility for your actions. If we engage in this toxic behavior, people around us will start to resent us or even walk away. The best way to stop this attitude is to admit your mistakes and hold yourself accountable for your actions. Next time, actively notice your thought process when you make a mistake. Make an effort to take ownership of what you have done. That will stop all arguments and inspire your opponent to be just as fair and open-minded as you are. So, quit telling people they are wrong.
4.Handle complaints:
Most people tend to complain about others. If you disagree with the other person, you may induce to interrupt. But don’t do that because they won’t pay attention to you while they still have ideas of their expression. So, listen patiently with an open mind. Encourage the person to express their thoughts and feelings fully. Listen to them without interruption and questioning. Before you say anything, make sure you fully understand what has happened and why they are upset or angry. Show your sincere empathy to neutralize any anger the person feels. It helps to calm the person.
5.Tweak your challenges into excitement:
All men have fears and doubts, but the brave put aside their fears and go forward. We can change our life by accepting and overcoming challenges. Life without any challenges would be boring and restless. Challenges motivate you to overcome fear. You can motivate yourself through positive thinking. Be aware of your thoughts and take them as challenges. Overcome them slowly and have patience with yourself. Always think positive. Check this article to know more about self care.
“embrace each challenge in your life as an opportunity for self-transformation.”-Bernie Siegel.
6.Win friends:
If you want to make new friends, you have to put yourselves out to do things for other people. Listening requires time, energy, unselfishness, and thoughtfulness. Expressing genuine interest in others wins friends. We can make friends and win the heart of others by giving respect and time to others without unselfishness. It will impact the person to think about you positively.
“Politeness is an inexpensive way of making friends.”- William Feather.
7.Make a good impression:
Everybody in the world is seeking happiness. You can find it by controlling your thoughts because it doesn’t depend on outside things. It depends on within you. Always greet the people with a warm smile. Because the effect of a smile is powerful even it is unseen. If you don’t feel like smiling, do force yourself to smile at the people and act as if you were already happy. It tends to make you happy. A smile is the best ornament that you can wear all the time.
8.Remember people’s names:
Hearing our name is the sweetest and most important sound in any language. Most people don’t remember names. Because they don’t take time and energy to concentrate, repeat and fix into their minds. Remember and using names works for all of us. During the conversation, take some effort to repeat the names several times and associate it with the person’s features, expressions, and general appearance. It makes them unique among all others.
9.Be a good listener:
Listening is a soft skill that can be learned and practiced. Relationships are built, maintained, and nurtured by listening to each other. Effective listening means feeding others that their words and the message would understand. It means making responses that promote further communication and understanding. It is not just attending to what is said but also giving proper answers.
“The secret of friendship is being a good listener.”
10.Appreciate the people:
Nowadays, people are focused on negative feelings such as frustration and resentment, which can lead to arguments. They don’t take time to appreciate the people around us. Take a little effort and have a closer look at your day-to-day interaction with other people. Giving compliments to others matters so much. Genuine appreciation lifts people. Practice appreciation by starting with yourself, then make an effort to observe what others are doing right. It will make you feel better and strengthen your relationship with others. The use of praise instead of criticism inspires the other person to improve. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
It is important to remember that when dealing with people, we deal not simply with humans but with creatures of emotion motivated by pride and ego. Next time, If you find yourself in a disagreement with someone, don’t respond with criticism. Apply the above ideas. You would be surprised how much perspective you can gain by giving yourself time to think the situation over.
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